Friday, April 04, 2008

Blackouts & Book Club

Righto ... So I mixed things up a little this morning and got my Book Review post out of the way first.

Last night was fairly uneventful. Varen got home around 17h30+ and we lost our power shortly after 6pm ... as we packed Bell away in her hutch and headed inside to start on dinner (Gym was officially skipped due to Varen's late arrival home and my impending Book Club date).

So I used up the last of our hot water on a relaxing bath (what else can one do when dinner is no longer an option and you have a mere 20 mins to spare?!). Varen sat with me feeding me oranges as we caught up on our day. I guess sometimes it's nice being forced to slow down and not be able to switch on the TV or laptop or stove ...

And then I headed to Book Club (luckily they had power there!). It was GalleryGirl's first time joining us and it was fab. Jeanius cooked up some yummy wraps and we nattered on as girls do :) I was sorta dreading the evening ... We all know I just wasn't feeling at all sociable yesterday and it was centered primarily around my dimming faith in Friends. No don't get me wrong, I have some fabulous ones. But it's hellishly difficult to forge new friendships ... and so many people seem closed to the opportunity. Now me, I'm and inviter. I like to include everyone. And yes, this leads to feelings of self-doubt and rejection every time people either a) fail to appreciate the opportunity provided and b) fail to reciprocate. I hate having my nose rubbed in the face of girl-group cliques. Generally, honestly, being friends with boys just seems so much easier. But, like all other girls out there, I crave the company of those like me, other girls. But girls are a fickle bunch. Sigh.


The Jackson Files said...

Oh Phillygirl, I know exactly what you mean. I have really struggled to make new girl friends since I moved back to SA last year and for a while I thought there was something wrong with me. It makes me very homesick for all the people I left behind in the UK.
BTW - Cranks was AMAZING and Neil Gaiman is one of my most favourite authors.
I hope you have a very happy weekend.

phillygirl said...

@tjf - yeah, it has been tricky ... mostly because my entire group of friends from my first 2 years in Joburg disintegrated when I broke up with Bean (they were mostly his friend's girlfs and none of them were particularly good friends either!)

And now although I've found a lovely group of friends in Varen's group (The Goof Troop), I still yearn for girl friends I can call my own. Sigh ...

Craving Cranks now! And looking forward to the read ... my sis did a review on it here

Anonymous said...

I have like, two close girl friends. And I almost never see them as we're all so busy. It's hard making new friendships for me as I'm always on guard and a little afraid. The thing is I care too easily, too quickly so when I feel like I've been tossed aside it hurts so much that I'd rather not make many girl friends at all. I know what you mean, I almost prefer haning out with men as they're not as catty.

As for the power outtage, it is nice to just slow down sometimes isn't it? I've never been much of a tv watcer so I don't miss it too much. It's just at work that it's such a shlep.

I hope you have a fantastic weekend though!

phillygirl said...

@jane - sheesh, it is comforting but sad to know I'm not the only one who feels this! I guess the only people who don't are *maybe* the ones who never leave their home town and/or the single girls. They always seem to make it look easier, in my opinion ... I guess cause they don't have the option of dragging their boyf along to watch a girly movie. I think maybe having boyfs makes us lazy friends ... ? I don't know what it is tho, really!

Yeah, sadly the power outages only affect me at home ... work has generators :P

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