Friday, February 13, 2009

Old Friends

So yesterday I skipped gym, yet again. It's this weather, I'm sure ... it's not motivational, all it makes me want to do is go home, crawl under a blanket and watch series or read my book.

Oh, and I don't think I'll be watching the end of Into the Wild either ... I think we may have deleted the file in our mad rush to get new series. Anyhoo, I'm not feeling any sort of loss over it.

Last night Varen went climbing and I went to Doppio Rosebank to meet up with someone I haven't seen in almost 5 years. Sheesh. Let's call him PerfectOnPaper. I guess I should provide a little background to this story. I met him at some random house party back in 2003 ... in my single phase between dating The Lying Pilot and Bean. We actually laughed about this last night because he couldn't remember how we'd met. We never officially dated, but we saw each other every so often for drinks and I went to a few work functions of his over the next 6 months. And then I met Bean and started dating him and moved to Joburg. I think I saw PerfectOnPaper once or twice in those early Joburg days when he happened to be up on business. I haven't seen him since then but we kept in touch (facebook) and he recently moved up to Joburg.

It's a pretty weird situation, really ... I wonder if anyone else has felt this before? I remember thinking in 2003 how he & I should've worked, we were perfect on paper. In theory we'd be an ideal couple. But there was something missing. In 2003 there was definitely spark. So I really have no idea what it was. And it made me a little nervous to see him again 5 years later. But it was so fine. Lovely really. Like catching up with an old friend where although 5 years have passed, it's like nothing has changed (except for the romantic involvement bit). I actually think after all this time we could be quite good friends.


Tamara said...

I totally get what you're saying.

Hmm... that sounded Sweet valley, but it's true...

My best guy friend from a few years back was the same for me - we were so close, we both had the hots for each other, but it just never really happened. And when I saw him for the first time after I'd married TSC, I worried about how we'd relate.

And it was all fine. I still enjoy his company, and so does TSC, and we are over our awkward romantic bits, so it's a happy friendship for all of us.

boldly benny said...

Ooo interesting! I guess it's great knowing that you can just be friends.
I had that with one of my guymates at the beginning of this year.

phillygirl said...

@tamara - that is so awesome for you guys, it happens so rarely. It's a bit like that with Varen, me & Bokkie as well. I guess when the boys don't feel threatened by each other everything can happily be fine!

@benny - yeah, it is.

AngelConradie said...

well, you're braver than i am. i can't speak to any of my exes no matter how informal or formal the "relationship" was.

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